Relax for health. Health is number one priority. Stress kills, however slowly,
but it kills as surely as with a gun. Reduce stress and tension with relaxation.
One may become anxious enough to have an anxiety attack, even a panic attack.
Social anxiety is experienced by many. It may be serious enough to be diagnosed
as agoraphobia, often an unconscious panic fear of criticism, a social
anxiety disorder.
Relax to reduce tension headaches. They are emotionally caused. Stress tightens
muscles pinching nerves and blood vessels causing organs to become dysfunctional.
Relax to reduce stress. All must learn to relax. Stress reduction is essential
for health in mind and body now and in the future. Notwithstanding classes and
seminars on stress management, stress cannot be managed.
The ability to relax increases with an understanding of unconscious desires,beliefs,
and associated emotions. We like to think that as adults we make logical decisions
and act on them. We do if the unconscious mind does not contain strong
conflicting beliefs about which we have good feelings. Decisions to behave
in a certain way are ultimately determined by the unconscious mind. The decision
will be based on the belief with which the most pleasant feeling is associated.
Unfortunately, unhealthy pleasant feelings of satisfaction may be associated with
the need to hit back, to put down, to ridicule, to reject, to get revenge, or to
vent rage on anyone nearby.
Well behaved people were morally taught and trained during childhood. Their
consciences contain beliefs that moral behavior is correct. They have pleasant
feelings associated with those beliefs, and as a result, behave morally, usually
without thinking. Any belief or behavior to the contrary is associated with
unpleasant feelings.
Conversely, persons who typically misbehave, have developed a conscience or belief
system of negative beliefs and emotional needs, needs to satisfy their
egocentricity, needs to control, and needs to put down or hit back with name calling,
gossip, threats, or rudeness. Those beliefs started in childhood when everyone
else was in control. It is not their fault that they have those negative emotions
and beliefs that drive and inhibit their behavior. If we understand this, and come
to unconsciously believe what we understand, we forgive. We can then relax. We reduce
stress. Stress and relaxation are mutually exclusive.
Repeated use of the relaxation tape will help you to will yourself to relax
in only a few moments when you choose to do so.
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Build Self-esteem
single tape$9.95
Self-esteem is essential to emotional, physical, and spritual health. I felt compelled
to make this tape because of the widespread pain caused by low self-esteem. Irrespective
of religious viewpoints, or none, sound advice and counsel are worth considering.
Scripture tells us, "The truth shall make you free."
Many adults with low self-esteem were neglected in childhood. A child may be criticized
too often and not only by family. He is lied to and abused emotionally and perhaps
physically. He feels frustrated, angry, helpless, starved for love, rejected, and even
hopeless. He does not dare to hit back, speak up, ask for explanations, or vent his
desires to put others down. He did not want the treatment and feelings to continue,
but could not change things. Feelings of being unwanted and rejected became an obsession.
As an adult, he is predisposed to expect rejection. A smile is misinterpreted as ridicule.
He cannot establish lasting relationships. Mental health deteriorates. Although an
inferiority complex prevails, a false pride keeps him from getting assistance. Money
and material possessions do not help. He may fear criticism to the point of being
anti-social, perhaps to the point of being agoraphobic. He would then have a panic fear of
leaving home.
Self-help has failed. He is unable alone to resolve the problems to his satisfaction.
Fritz Perles called this unfinished business. Unfulfilled desires are stored
in his unconscious mind, waiting for later recall. At least some of this happens to
every child.
Let me pretend. I have low self-esteem, I feel anxious, fear the future, and unloved.
I feel helpless, down, and depressed. I am easily hurt by the words and behavior of
others. I get angry too quickly and too easily. I am a name-caller. I can find in me a host
of other "poor me" and "I'll never get better" feelings and beliefs. I may develop feelings
of hopelessness, and a belief of, "Why try. Nothing works. No one can or wants to help me."
To lift myself, I must first want to find the truth. I must then find it. I
recognize it as the truth. I must come to consciously understand it, and then to
unconsciously believe it. Not easy. I have my own unconsciously believed
truths, my biases, my prejudices. I believe what I have earlier stored in my unconscious
mind. To resolve my problems, I must reach my unconscious and modify, delete, overwhelm,
and/or replace my defective and negative beliefs from earlier times.
Simply stated, I must seek, find, recognize, understand, and unconsciously believe the
truths necessary for me to view and assess myself for what I really am. I cannot do it
by myself, but it is difficult to admit that. Someone may laugh at me. Someone may
criticize me. Someone may ridicule me. I need help. JUST MAYBE -- maybe I might find help.
Maybe I have found it, here and now. In building self-esteem, I will have confidence
and self-assurance.
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Quit Smoking
(If desired, you will likely not gain weight.)
single tape $9.95
You likely want to quit smoking cigarettes, cigars, and/or pipes. You likely
want to quit tobacco in any form. Many have. You can too. Is it worth
risking the price of a cheap lunch?
I was a smoker. Notwithstanding repeated research, many surveys, and many
statistical analyses which shouted, "QUIT SMOKING!!," I tried to stop smoking,
but I continued smoking. I remember doing maintenance work on a large
accounting machine. I was squatting between it and a window through which
the sun was streaming. An equipment operator rushed over with a large
fire extinguisher. Fortunately I stood up at the right time. He stopped short of
drenching the machine, and me. He had noticed billows of smoke in the sunlight.
I looked around and realized that I had lit three cigarettes one after another. I had
left them in three locations on and in the machine. I thought to myself, "I am going
to quit smoking. I am not going to let a smoking fetish control me. Enough is
enough." But it wasn't.
I looked for excuses not to quit smoking. I kidded myself. I reminded myself that my
father had started smoking at age six. He had spent early childhood on a farm in
Minnesota, they raised their own tobacco. Even though addicted to nicotine, he seemed to be
healthy. He warned me about addiction, but did I listen?
He later died from emphysema. He had been on oxygen with labored breathing for
so long he simply did not want to live any longer. I reminded myself that I felt OK.
My friends smoked. They all seemed OK. One later died of emphysema. A childhood friend
later died of cancer after walking around with a significant portion of his lower
jaw missing.
Then I read of a study that indicated that smoking accelerated the rate of death
in conjunction with any and all known physical illnesses. That WAS enough.
I quit smoking that day.
However, I then had to fight the fridge and weight gain. More excuses. More denial
of the truth. Thirty pounds in one month. Enough was too much. I finally got the
eating problem under control and actually began experiencing weight loss.. If
I had had this kind of tape available to me, I would have quit smoking much earlier.
I would not have gained the weight.
If you want to quit and control your weight, and if you want help, it's available.
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